HE COULD’VE SAID NO
When you ask him to pick you up just so you could go on a stroll…
He doesn’t hesitate to cancel plans he just made with homeboy…
He could’ve said no….
When you asked him to take out the trash…
He could have ignored you and acted like he didn’t hear you, but he closed his eyes with a sigh and thought about how that one small thing would make you happy so he took out the trash…..
He could have said no…..
When your’re getting ready to go out and you ask him if your dress looks good on you……
He didn’t uncaringly shrug his shoulders and say whatever instead he suggests it would look better off
He could have said no……
When you ask him to go to the grocery store with you in the middle of November….
He looks at the scoreboard and it reads 21, Falcons-Saints, 14 with 4 min left
He looks at you, and that irreplaceable smile, and grabs the keys
He could have said no….
Running home a little late, you called and asked him to clean the chicken and you would finish dinner…..
By the time you got there, the kids were almost done eating, were bathed and ready for bed…
He could’ve said no….
He could’ve said no to dealing with your baggage……
He could’ve said no to your unapproachable attitude………
He could’ve said no to dealing with hurt someone else created
He could’ve passed you by after the first argument……..
He could’ve done what the typical man in this situation would do
He could’ve given up, he could’ve chose anyone in the world……
He could’ve said no when God said “Listen to me my son, there is only one love that is true”.
There are a lot things that he could’ve done, but It was written in his destiny to say YES to you….
………..HE COULD HAVE SAID NO……………….
Ladies, if you have a good thing you better find some way to keep in tact otherwise you are pushing the wrong man away. My daddy always said you don’t miss a good thang til it’s gone. I never knew what it meant until I cared.
Ladies, if you have a man like this and you really don’t want him, let him know cause you’re just playing. Go on and find yourself the exact opposite and we’ll holla atcha when you get one (a man) that don’t care how you feel much less what God says. Been there, done that. We all have. For some reason BS attracts women. We will believe a lie and we know it’s a lie and yet we justify it. Yeah, you have been a dummy. I can’t be the only one! I have just found a way to say what you can’t.
I do believe in true love but my definition must have been distorted over the years because if you truly love someone, there should be no question about validity
What's your definition of a good man?
As I mentioned before, there are some good men out there but perhaps your definition and mine may be on two totally ends of a broad spectrum.
Sometimes a woman's/man's priorities dictate what a good mate consists of depending on our maturity level and more often than not we tend to allow our standards to cloud our judgement when choosing. Reconfiguring your wants and needs forces us to separate the high standards from what will truly make you happy. We have been down the wrong road so many times that we have no idea what make us happy.
My definition of a good man is someone who is compatible, compassionate and has the capacity to be at least willing to communicate when things aren't going as planned. Sure, finances play a huge role in your relationship but it doesn't BUY happiness.
A "good" man pays attention to the small things and capitalizes on them in a monumental way.
A "good" man is not easily offended and is instead studious and very attentive to your needs and longs to fulfill them.
OAN: Ladies, don't come down hard on me, but Imma need you to step it up because before you try to go and change a man into something you want him to be , it would serve as a huge courtesy to try changing yourselves...(myself included). Not necessarily changing your lifestyle, but simply altering your approach to your lifestyle. If you continue to attract men that are obviously not good for you, then it is quite possible you need a CHANGE OF VENUE.
SN: We can't all have a relationship like T.I and Tiny simply because we are not will to put in the work and the effort it takes to have what they have. They have been together for a long time and been through things that we can only imagine that are not shown on TV. Stop living in reality TV and start directing your own show. The reality is is that it's time to let your guard down and move out of the way of God's work!
LN: (Last Note) HAPPY HUNTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
As I mentioned before, there are some good men out there but perhaps your definition and mine may be on two totally ends of a broad spectrum.
Sometimes a woman's/man's priorities dictate what a good mate consists of depending on our maturity level and more often than not we tend to allow our standards to cloud our judgement when choosing. Reconfiguring your wants and needs forces us to separate the high standards from what will truly make you happy. We have been down the wrong road so many times that we have no idea what make us happy.
My definition of a good man is someone who is compatible, compassionate and has the capacity to be at least willing to communicate when things aren't going as planned. Sure, finances play a huge role in your relationship but it doesn't BUY happiness.
A "good" man pays attention to the small things and capitalizes on them in a monumental way.
A "good" man is not easily offended and is instead studious and very attentive to your needs and longs to fulfill them.
OAN: Ladies, don't come down hard on me, but Imma need you to step it up because before you try to go and change a man into something you want him to be , it would serve as a huge courtesy to try changing yourselves...(myself included). Not necessarily changing your lifestyle, but simply altering your approach to your lifestyle. If you continue to attract men that are obviously not good for you, then it is quite possible you need a CHANGE OF VENUE.
SN: We can't all have a relationship like T.I and Tiny simply because we are not will to put in the work and the effort it takes to have what they have. They have been together for a long time and been through things that we can only imagine that are not shown on TV. Stop living in reality TV and start directing your own show. The reality is is that it's time to let your guard down and move out of the way of God's work!
LN: (Last Note) HAPPY HUNTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This post was challenged by a good friend of mine DNP*****Keep pushing me
I love this. I agree that sometimes we have to look in the mirror and change ourselves first. Before u try to make someone be a perfect mate make sure you're willing to become one as well.
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